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Sunday, March 29, 2009
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Friday, February 6, 2009
Small Steps First
A crappy night's sleep makes for a crabby kid at the end of the day.
That was my yesterday. My husband said he was completely impressed by how I handled the situation. I feel like a Total Transformation pro.
I knew that when Evan's Ritalin kicked out of his system at the end of the day, I needed to get him fed and get him to bed since he would be tired. He put up the most gigantic fight with me about eating. He kept saying he was full and that he wanted to go to sleep.
The thing is, if I were to put him to bed, he would wake up hungry which would mean another bad night's sleep, and the cycle would start again.
I wasn't backing down on the fact that he needed dinner, and his anger erupted. He had some toys with him at the time, which I removed for not following my directions.
As I calmly worked with him (thank you, Total Transformation for giving me the tools I need to remain calm!), at one point he slapped the plate out of my hand. His entire dinner was on the floor.
That's when I had it, and sent him to the den so that he could cool down and I could clean-up.
As soon as I put him in the room, he was screaming at the top of his lungs about how he was ready to eat dinner. My husband said he would stay with him so I could quickly get the food off the floor. I could hear them going back and forth. My husband said that he wouldn't let Evan out of the room to eat until he stopped screaming.
My husband was trying. Sounds like reasonable behavior therapy. A desired action yields a good consequence.
The problem was that my husband was asking way too much of a child who was way too out of control. Evan had lost it. "A smaller step!" I kept telling him. "A smaller step!"
I took over the situation and said to Evan, "Do you want to leave this room?"
"Yes," he said. Or I should say he screamed in my face.
"Then I want you to show me that you can be quiet. If you can go quietly down the stairs -- with no screaming -- then I will give you your toy back."
He did it. He didn't scream, but he stomped and jumped his way all the way down.
But it was exactly what he needed. He needed to be given the opportunity to succeed. If only just a little. He went down the stairs with no screaming, and he got his toy back.
After he learned that I would allow him certain privileges during our interaction if he did what I said, he was more and more compliant. I said he could earn back another toy if he took a bite of food. He took the bite, and earned the toy.
And things began to calm down.
Within about five minutes, he was in my lap crying and saying that he was sorry. (I didn't ask him for an apology.) After he released his tears, we finished dinner together and I put him to bed.
So, yeah. I feel good about the skills I've learned from the Total Transformation Program. Raising a kid with ADHD is hard. I don't know what I'd do without the program.
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Interested in purchasing the program? Please consider buying it from me. I use the commission they give to help off-set my son's sky high therapy costs. Call 1-866-620-1293 or click below.
That was my yesterday. My husband said he was completely impressed by how I handled the situation. I feel like a Total Transformation pro.
I knew that when Evan's Ritalin kicked out of his system at the end of the day, I needed to get him fed and get him to bed since he would be tired. He put up the most gigantic fight with me about eating. He kept saying he was full and that he wanted to go to sleep.
The thing is, if I were to put him to bed, he would wake up hungry which would mean another bad night's sleep, and the cycle would start again.
I wasn't backing down on the fact that he needed dinner, and his anger erupted. He had some toys with him at the time, which I removed for not following my directions.
As I calmly worked with him (thank you, Total Transformation for giving me the tools I need to remain calm!), at one point he slapped the plate out of my hand. His entire dinner was on the floor.
That's when I had it, and sent him to the den so that he could cool down and I could clean-up.
As soon as I put him in the room, he was screaming at the top of his lungs about how he was ready to eat dinner. My husband said he would stay with him so I could quickly get the food off the floor. I could hear them going back and forth. My husband said that he wouldn't let Evan out of the room to eat until he stopped screaming.
My husband was trying. Sounds like reasonable behavior therapy. A desired action yields a good consequence.
The problem was that my husband was asking way too much of a child who was way too out of control. Evan had lost it. "A smaller step!" I kept telling him. "A smaller step!"
I took over the situation and said to Evan, "Do you want to leave this room?"
"Yes," he said. Or I should say he screamed in my face.
"Then I want you to show me that you can be quiet. If you can go quietly down the stairs -- with no screaming -- then I will give you your toy back."
He did it. He didn't scream, but he stomped and jumped his way all the way down.
But it was exactly what he needed. He needed to be given the opportunity to succeed. If only just a little. He went down the stairs with no screaming, and he got his toy back.
After he learned that I would allow him certain privileges during our interaction if he did what I said, he was more and more compliant. I said he could earn back another toy if he took a bite of food. He took the bite, and earned the toy.
And things began to calm down.
Within about five minutes, he was in my lap crying and saying that he was sorry. (I didn't ask him for an apology.) After he released his tears, we finished dinner together and I put him to bed.
So, yeah. I feel good about the skills I've learned from the Total Transformation Program. Raising a kid with ADHD is hard. I don't know what I'd do without the program.
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Interested in purchasing the program? Please consider buying it from me. I use the commission they give to help off-set my son's sky high therapy costs. Call 1-866-620-1293 or click below.
Thursday, January 29, 2009
Hopeful Parents!
The new blog is live! Please check out Hopeful Parents. I'll be there an awful lot, and will try to post about the Total Transformation more there.
Thanks!
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Thanks!
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Interested in purchasing the program? Please consider buying it from me. I use the commission they give to help off-set my son's sky high therapy costs. Call 1-866-620-1293 or click below.
Saturday, January 17, 2009
Yikes!
Sorry to all who keep up with this blog that I have not posted in nearly a month. Life has gotten in the way -- holidays, birthdays, my son's psychological breakdown.
He has been having such awful breakdowns for the past few weeks. These are things that are way past any type of behavior therapy. You look in his eyes to try to "get to him," but he's not even there. His psychiatrist has prescribed Clonidine that we are to give him in those moments when he is "psychotic." So hopefully that -- with the behavior techniques in the Total Transformation that I love so well -- will get him back in line.
Also, I wanted to let you know that I'm starting a new blog called Hopeful Parents. It's still under construction, to be launched for realz on January 29th. But, I thought I'd give you the heads-up. That's also been taking up my precious blogging time from here.
Please be patient with me, because I will definitely be back to regular posting. So much to talk about...
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Interested in purchasing the program? Please consider buying it from me. I use the commission they give to help off-set my son's sky high therapy costs. Call 1-866-620-1293 or click below.
He has been having such awful breakdowns for the past few weeks. These are things that are way past any type of behavior therapy. You look in his eyes to try to "get to him," but he's not even there. His psychiatrist has prescribed Clonidine that we are to give him in those moments when he is "psychotic." So hopefully that -- with the behavior techniques in the Total Transformation that I love so well -- will get him back in line.
Also, I wanted to let you know that I'm starting a new blog called Hopeful Parents. It's still under construction, to be launched for realz on January 29th. But, I thought I'd give you the heads-up. That's also been taking up my precious blogging time from here.
Please be patient with me, because I will definitely be back to regular posting. So much to talk about...
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Interested in purchasing the program? Please consider buying it from me. I use the commission they give to help off-set my son's sky high therapy costs. Call 1-866-620-1293 or click below.
Tuesday, December 23, 2008
Did You Just Purchase the Program?
Someone just purchased a program through me. Was it you? Were you buying it for yourself or for a loved one? Or are you Santa?
I'm hoping you were buying this as a gift for someone, not for yourself. Holidays are supposed to be these magic, nostalgic times where families build memories that last a lifetime. Only sometimes with kids who have behavior issues, those memories aren't always good ones.
I usually see a bump in sales on holidays -- Mother's Day and Father's Day tug at my heartstrings the most. I don't assume the sales on those days were gifts. I picture a family having a rough time at brunch, fighting words at home, and the parent -- who is supposed to be enjoying the day about them -- breaking down to purchase a behavioral program for their child.
But on Hanukkah and Christmas, there is this possibility that these sales are not made in desperation. Maybe they are a gift. A second chance. A new start. A breath of life into a child and their family.
You deserve a bright and happy holiday celebration. I wish it and hope it for you. Here's to you and yours this holiday season and into the new year.
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Interested in purchasing the program? Please consider buying it from me. I use the commission they give to help off-set my son's sky high therapy costs. Call 1-866-620-1293 or click below.
I'm hoping you were buying this as a gift for someone, not for yourself. Holidays are supposed to be these magic, nostalgic times where families build memories that last a lifetime. Only sometimes with kids who have behavior issues, those memories aren't always good ones.I usually see a bump in sales on holidays -- Mother's Day and Father's Day tug at my heartstrings the most. I don't assume the sales on those days were gifts. I picture a family having a rough time at brunch, fighting words at home, and the parent -- who is supposed to be enjoying the day about them -- breaking down to purchase a behavioral program for their child.
But on Hanukkah and Christmas, there is this possibility that these sales are not made in desperation. Maybe they are a gift. A second chance. A new start. A breath of life into a child and their family.
You deserve a bright and happy holiday celebration. I wish it and hope it for you. Here's to you and yours this holiday season and into the new year.
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Interested in purchasing the program? Please consider buying it from me. I use the commission they give to help off-set my son's sky high therapy costs. Call 1-866-620-1293 or click below.
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